CEE's Family Building Blocks
Break A Habit
Habits. They can be hard to
break! All adults know that. Parents also find that it is as hard to break our children's
habits as it is our own. How can you help your family "clean up its act"
so-to-speak? Here are a few tips:
Messies: Most kids are famous for leaving clothes lying around their
room and the house. One mother found this solution: if she found the clothing of any child
where it should not be, then that child would be volunteering to serve the family by doing
the laundry (with supervision and a little help from Mom). It only took one day of laundry
duty with each child before Mom saw great improvement! They are now more responsible, and
more appreciative of all their mother does. Similarly, when toys are left out, parents can
collect them at night and only return them when the child "buys" each item back
for a quarter.
One day at a time: Many children (and adults) need to break the
television habit. To cut back, try handing out "tickets" each day or each week,
each one worth 30 minutes of viewing (decide how much is "enough"). Another
method is to disconnect the T.V. (you'll only want to endure the hassle of reconnection
for something REALLY good); or quit watching it for just one day. Then maybe one more, or
two at a time. Work your way off the dependence. The same method can be applied to
complaining. Everyone try to state things positively with no complaining for just one day
. . . then two . . . then three, letting off steam in constructive activities instead.
Who Influences Your Child
No matter how hard we try, we
cannot totally shield our children from the influences of the world. Neighborhood
children, television, advertising signs, school curricula and play, books--all can have an
ungodly influence upon our precious little ones.
How can you monitor these influences? First, listen--when your child talks to you or a
friend, in the car, at home or at play. What names frequently pop up? These are peers that
have an influence. What are your child's primary interests (and thus exposure)?
Second, make yourself a strong influence. Spend time talking, instructing and
modeling--and have FUN together, so your kids will like family time! Mike Yorkey says,
"Eating together is a time to reconnect. It promotes communication, which promotes
discussion, which promotes sharing, which promotes love." All of these strengthen
your influence. Become the neighborhood hang-out. You'll not only gain more control over
your child's influences, you'll influence other children for Christ as well!
We encourage you to check out Worldproofing Your Kids by Lael F. Arrington ($13.00) and
the other great resources in the new CEE catalog (call 714-251-9333 for more info.).